My Heroes – Day 4 without Facebook

I have left Facebook for a while, as if that was not obvious enough. And I was thinking about my heroes. There have been people in the past who said: “Who cannot like you? You’re such a kind personality!” . Either they were naïve or just being too kind. There are always people in the world who do not like you. And believe me there are a bunch of people who do not like me. I am a bit different, but apart from that a range of words always pass that describe me as someone not very nice.

Does it matter? Not much, because I believe that whatever steps I took and take have always been from good intentions and good purposes. And as life is a big transition, people will come and go, like waves of the sea.

What does this have to do with heroes? My heroes are sometimes people with a big name, who have done great things. These people in the limelight are also always pictured in different ways, nice and not nice. My heroes are also people who are not big names, but big at heart and do great things and yet also these people some find nice and some not nice.

I always admire those the people who are not big names most, because they do such great things and nobody knows about it. And most of the time nobody has to know, because it is the intention with which the great things have been done.

Would it be different if such a person becomes a big name? It might not be, but it can be. Sometimes these people can become part of big mask wearing groups, who put up some show, and not focusing anymore on what really matters. The risk of running after fame can become a threat? I don’t know, I have never been in such a position, but from what I observe, it somehow does not feel as genuine as it should when a name becomes big. Perhaps that is a judgement and it will come from good intentions, but what other influences play a role, nobody knows.

So is it bad to do something good or great things and make it big for the public? I have thought a lot about it. In the end, I believe, if it is something that truly contributes to a better world, then I would not mind. But if the personal gain would be bigger than the actual contribution, then what would be the use?

Some people I believe I use the TEDx Award title only for personal gain. It is a different example, but it relates to the topic of heroes. I use the Award, but that is not my ultimate goal to use it for whatever personal gain. And what is an Award? It is nice, but I always hope that people will actually watch that Talk I won this Award with and understand the deeper meaning of a Talk I presented in a light hearted way for everybody in this world to understand.

The Award and many other things I do, give me a personal gain, but that is not the ultimate goal, look beyond it when I get praised on a stage or in a radio interview or in a news paper or wherever I am praised.

Look beyond it and perhaps find out who I really am and what I want to do and why I do the things I do and what goals I wish to reach with those.

Perhaps that is also a reason that I left Facebook for a while. With a more open mind approach the world and not see how people want to picture themselves and show myself also as some picture. Do great things more anonymously and after a long time feel that joy alone and with a few people I care a lot about. And that is really enough for the moment.

It will be a different experience and at some point I will share again with the world, who will judge me again, part of life, but then I will have regained the feeling again of how real a real world can be after a long Facebook period. And I was an intensive Facebook user. A beloved sharing platform.

So I will look at my heroes and take the next steps, the journey stays interesting :).